BABA UMAR
Ayesha, a 45-year-old home maker and a mother of four bachelorette daughters, finally decided to discover the unconventional method of finding a match for her siblings. She had asked her relatives and some older women of her neighbourhood to help her search for a better match. She had also approached the conventional matchmakers (manzimyoer in Kashmiri). After years of futile search, however, she landed up in the city’s Seerat Marriage Bureau (Matrimonial agency). But she was in for a surprise.
“We are winding up this bureau,” tells the bureau owner to Ayesha.
Disappointed Ayesha says she has paid almost 20,000 to several traditional matchmakers, but all of them never turned up after making few visits to Ayesha’s house in the city outskirts. The matchmakers, she consulted, rather weakened her case and it is four years since she went in the quest of a match for her elder daughter.
“They (Manzimyoer) play pranks that is the reason why I have come here (matrimonial agency),” she says. “Now this matrimonial agency too is giving me the cold response.”
The owner of the bureau (who wished not to be named) cites many reasons as why he is pulling down the shutters of his matrimonial agency. And that activates a lengthy dialogue between the proprietor of the marriage bureau and Ayesha.
Seerat Marriage Bureau was established a year back to help people find matches without any hassles free from irritant manzimyoers that drive one mad. The owner says that his was the only marriage bureau in the city that was meant only for a ‘social cause’.
“I used to charge only ten rupees for this,” says the owner, displaying a three-page-long registration form. The owner says that he wished to get the society out of the clutches of the traditional match makers, but failed. Reasons, “lack of feeling towards their own betterment,” is how he puts up.The bureau so far, he says, registered some 200 odd bachelors. However, only three couples could tie up the nuptial knot. The rest of hopefuls got jammed in the caste, looks of the counterparts and status. They couldn’t find their partners in almost two hundred young people.
“If our religion (Islam) permits inter-caste marriages, then why this ‘sick attitude’,” he says. “I am disappointed with the thinking of the people here.”This time Ayesha nods to the words of the man whom she thought would help her.
Of the 200 bachelors, he says, most of them are highly educated but the rich versus poor, caste dissimilarity and the mind-set to have lavish marriages has ultimately resulted in no-marriages from the pile he had registered in a year. And that is the reason why he is closing his agency.“Is anybody worried about the thousands of girls who are over-aged now and close to infertility,” he poses.Unfortunately his poser has no immediate answer.

Wani’s relatives said that they filed a missing report of the boy at Safakadal Police Station.“We gave him money to buy eatables from the market but he didn’t return,” said one of Wani’s uncles.Wani’s relatives, who were outside the police station for hours kept demanding the immediate arrest of Bashir Ahmed.
His speech no doubt started on time, however, some of the scribes and lensemen seemed to have forgotten their lessons. Organisers of such meets often complain of distractions caused by the latecomers. And the side talk during the press conferences, which is a hobby of some latecomers, also irks the leaders who are supposed to be heard first. And as the separatist leader talked about the oppression and the magnitude of sufferings a common Kashmiri endures, one of the scribe’s mobile phone confirmed his statement, “Dil mein meray hai Dard-e-Disco”—the sing tone, as the cell phone buzzed. The song, actually a Bollywood hit, synchronized with the leader’s words.The press conference ended as usual. The moment one of the escorts of Shah announced the house open for freebie (Tea and Kebabs), the news gatherers in huff gathered around the long embellished table for the plates and forks. Meanwhile, a scribe joked to his fellow member, what would happen if there will be no freebies? “No news-gathering,” pat came the reply and they both laughed. Just after they stepped down the stairs, one of the scribes had an SMS, which read: Shabir Shah is floating the third APHC called APHC (S).
Many believe that local workers are themselves responsible for it. They say, workers here are talented but they have an ego problem that needs to be shelved. “Probably the outsiders are not willing to share their trade secret here,” opines Parvaiz Ahmad Bhat, who is running a confectionery shop in the Lal Chowk. Bhat also says the local bakers do not like learning this art and that is the reason why this work is being operated here by outsiders only. “My workers are all from Delhi and Jammu,” he says.



This time the lens has been shifted away from the pictures of Kashmir’s flora and fauna, shrines, brides, landscape etc to a new spectrum. The new look is a portrayal of the Kashmiris with their merchandise clicked in the sundry markets of India. It’s all about Kashmiris slogging there in the plains of India and bringing home a new experience plus affluence.
Chairman Jammu and Kashmir Bank Haseeb Drabu describes the schema of this year’s calendar as a move to “re-ascertain Kashmir’s cultural legacy”. “This is basically a new cultural proliferation and something what we can say an attempt to restore Kashmir’s rich heritage,” Drabu says.
The New Year calendar provokes the onlooker to seek for the mastermind who has taken adequate care while finalisation of the artefact from its enduring themes and images, aesthetic designs to selection of fonts, finest quality paper and the best statements of the home grown entrepreneurs.“The idea,” says Drabu, “is to demonstrate how our common Kashmiris have gone ahead.” He says this year’s calendar is a tribute to such entrepreneurs and their fortitude. “I salute them as they are my idols,” says he.And about the bank’s New Year resolution, he says it is “to contribute utmost in a short span of time”. The calendar seems not just a bundle of leaflets meant for hanging there on walls but it’s being seen as an eternal sort of spirit to Kashmiris through their own culture.Moreover it syncs with the mission statement of the bank to empower the promising entrepreneurs of the Valley.




that every Kashmiri student has been going through from the past 18 years.”


bout the municipal committee hounds?
